Saturday, November 3, 2007

The spending continues

Well, tomorrow is deer hunting opener, there's way too many people at my house right now, and I'm not even there but I'm extremely stressed out. It's bad enough to have a ton of people there when DH is well, I hate it even then, but now it's kind of morphed into this "how much work can I do to make DH's friends forget that something's wrong, or maybe they just won't notice".....I'm trying to plan meals and keep things clean and of course the animals aren't getting fed because it's Friday, so who knows what they think about that, but realistically I just try to make sure everyone has extra "Friday food" because I know that even if I called him and asked him twenty times to feed the animals, they wouldn't get fed.

Anyhow, DH drove to get Jason tonite, and Jason gave him $20 for gas. DH promptly went to the grocery store and bought a bunch of stuff we didn't need, including Pop Tarts(!) and cookies.
When he told me that, I didn't know what to say, because if I say something like " you shouldn't have spent that money" then I'm bringing him down. And he gets all down on himself "I'm a piece of crap, you'd be better off without me" etc. But I sure as heck can't say anything like "Oh wow!!! We were running low on Pop Tarts!!!!" I wish I knew how to deal with this spending. You knwo what he said when I didn't seem all that excited about all the stuff he bought???

"It's free money anyhow".

From a guy with no job, no bank account, no money. Can you see that something's wrong here? I sure can. But I don't know what to do about it. I think I need to bring this up with DH's therapist.

Or maybe we need marriage counseling or something. Maybe I just complain too much and should just shut up.