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Friday, May 8, 2009

"That Guy" is mad at my dog.



I'm really torn up about this. My dog Kirby is 16 years old. I've had him since he was 6 weeks old. And he's not a little dog, for sure, so he's pretty elderly. He's very deaf. I've known for over a year now that he has kidney failure, and the last time we went to the vet, I learned that he probably has some kind of cancer, too. But I elected not to do any procedures to find out for sure, because I knew there wouldn't be any treatment....at age 16, even if I had the money, it's probably not realistic to put hundreds of dollars into a dog who's already older than most....

Anyhow, due to his kidney failure, Kirby has been drinking more and more water. And experiencing the consequences of that. In the last couple of months, it has been that he needs to go out every two to three hours, or he just can't "hold it". And, since I'm working a lot, and DH is not dependable, he often does not get out when he needs to go. Luckily, he (Kirby) seemed to have some understanding regarding this, as he would go into the laundry room and pee on the floor in there. So it wasn't too big of a deal....sad, and frustrating, but I will put up with a lot from someone I love, if I know they can't help it....

Anyhow, today, DH called me and told me that last night Kirby didn't make it into the laundry room several times. DH was very angry. I felt like he was angry with me, too, for having a dog that would do that. He told me it "ruined his whole day". The DH I married would not think like that, for sure. I felt bad. But not about DH. Too bad for him. Deal with a little stress once in a while. But for me, my impending loss, and my dog.

I know what's coming. Every morning when I come home from work and Kirby is sleeping, I hope and pray that he's died in his sleep, so I don't have to decide when it's his time. He still wags his tail, still begs for treats. Still walks to the mailbox with me on his good days.

But he's pretty skinny now, and on some of his "bad" days his back end kind of sways, he's pretty weak.

I won't put him down just because DH is angry, not at all. But it all just makes me think about it more, and I know there isn't much time left. Kirby has been my friend for ages, my very best friend for a lot of those years. I'm getting a lump in my throat just telling you about him. And DH being angry about him does not help one bit.

8 comments:

Story of our Life said...

I'm sorry that Kirby isn't doing so well. It's been a very long time and it is really hard to get to this point and know what to do/not do.

(((HUGS))

Gala

Immi said...

Oh that's so hard. I'm sorry Kirby and you are having such a hard time. I went through it with my kitty Chloe, though fortunately not with a DH to go along with it. When it's time, you'll feel what to do. *hugs*

Stacy said...

I am so sorry to hear about Kirby. I have to take my 20 year old cat tomorrow to be put down, and my 13 year old dog also has cancer...it is hard because many times the animals in your life are more reliable than the people...

DogAteMyFinances said...

Wow, I'm looking at my dog right now, and this breaks my heart. I can't even imagine if someone -- ANYONE -- wouldn't let her out to potty. A monster...

Karen said...

My heart breaks for you. As if you don't have enough to deal with, losing your best friend without a sympathic shoulder is just unbearable.
I really hope that you know Kirby was so lucky to have you loving him, and while his time is coming to an end, he knows how much he is loved, and that makes him a very lucky animal. Take comfort from that.
Ignore DH for once. It is your turn now. Love and thoughts.

perphila said...

I have been where you are. My dog Tiny was 16 years old when she had the same bathroom issues and she was also blind. Sean was always upset with her because of it. Looking back I don't know why I never said anything to him about it. I was lucky that in the end when it was her time Sean took her to the vet for me because I just couldn't. The boys and I stayed home and cried. I hope DH despite being upset can be there for you too when the time comes.

Miz Kizzle said...

How about putting your hubby down and keeping Kirby?
Just kidding, but your husband is being an insensitive jerk. If he'd get his heiner off the recliner and take the dog outside there wouldn't be any little accidents to get mad about, now would there? It's such a shame that your husband's busy, executive day was ruined by Kirby peeing on the floor. Having a bi-polar disorder is no excuse for being a jerk. We all have problems but most of us don't whine like spoiled little girls because the dog pees in the house. We deal with it, just like you're dealing with working two jobs, raising your DD, taking care of your DM and taking care of hubby.
Kirby is a faithful friend with a beautiful soul. You don't rage about friends who are old and sick, you treat them with gentleness and love. You'll know when the time come for Kirby to pass on. If he's in pain I'm sure you'll do the right thing.
I don't know how you manage to put up with your husband's bratty behavior. I'd have his stuff in plastic garbage bags and out in the yard faster than he can say, "I need gas money."
But that's just me.

Mrs. Dreamer said...

Ok, I somehow missed this post and I am crying. Carol, I have to wonder if DH is taking advantage of you and inflicting mental abuse on you? This behavior doesn't sound right, even for someone suffering with bi-polar.

Don't let him turn you into a victim.

I now want to come and rescue you, your pets, and DH.