Thursday, October 30, 2008

New name needed!

Ok, well, there's DH, who's my soulmate, the best husband ever. Then there's "That Guy", who's the antithesis of "good husband". He's coldhearted, irrational, demanding, and inconsiderate.

But there's this other guy, too, and I need to get rid of him too! It's the guy who wallows in self-pity. "I can't find a job." "I'm worthless." "Everyone would be better off if I was dead." The guy who, when you say something that isn't absolutely 100% glowing praise, shuts down and won't talk at all. "What's wrong?" "Nothing." "Did I do something wrong?" "No, that's part of the problem, you've done absolutely everything right." "Well, can we talk about it?" "I've been doing a lot of thinking." "About what?"

"I've got a lot on my mind."

"I don't want to talk about it."

"Why don't you just tell me to go?"

"I'm such a burden to you."

I (Carol) just want to say to him, "Ok, so you feel like you're a burden. I assume that's because you are always asking me for money. If you don't like how it makes you feel, then make a goal and change it."

But that always makes "That Guy" mad, because I don't understand.

(In reality, I guess the "wallowing DH" is just another one of "That Guy"'s shining personality attributes. And I wish "That Guy" would take "wallowing DH" away, too.)


perphila said...

The wallowing guy is tiring but the mean guy is hurtful. I understand that completely! I know I prefered the wallowing guy. I felt bad knowing he wasn't happy. I felt selfish for wanting that guy around as opposed to the nasty guy. The nasty guy made me a wallow type girl. I know now he did that to make me feel bad because it made him feel better to see someone else feeling as bad as him or worse. I feel less guilty now.