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Thursday, July 8, 2010

Huh-oh.....

Well, the "red flags" are popping up all over the place.  DH is having a much harder time going to work.  He's come home early twice, and called in once :-(  I am convinced now that he is not going to be able to keep this job.  I have been quietly rejoicing every day that he makes it to work, because it's a little more money to pay some things off before we can't.....but it's becoming clear that it's a short-term thing :-(

He's been getting into disagreements with his supervisors again.  Over stupid stuff.  And disagreements with his coworkers, too.  He got into a big argument with a guy who comes back from his break later than he should.  That guy apparently griped to either DH's supervisor or to HR (nobody is exactly sure) and he got in trouble for "harassing" the guy.  So then he (DH) took the issue to the director (but it didn't go too far, of course).  He's getting so worked up over "normal" workplace stressors that I feel like it's only a matter of time before he either gets fired or quits.

And then.....my brother came up to see my mom, and he wanted to go to the bar with DH.  So DH went, but it was awful.  If you saw DH, you would've thought that his best friend, AND his mom AND his dog had died.  He was so depressed.  And he was doing that "talking in slow motion" thing again.  My brother (who doesn't notice much at all) said "I've never seen DH like that, not ever.  It's like he's a different person and I can't cheer him up.  What's going on with him?"  (My brother only knows a little about the mental illness thing, and when I told him about that a couple of years ago, he was convinced that he could "fix it" by talking with DH and being his friend.  It was a nice idea, just not realistic, of course.

Oh....and did I mention that the back pain is back????

Anyhow, there's a NAMI meeting for families on 7/17 and I think I am going to go.  It's about 45 miles away, but I think it's about time I met some other real-life people who have been through similar stuff.  I'll keep you posted, of course.

3 comments:

GB's Mom said...

I am sorry Hubby is crashing- have you spoke to his shrink? his medication may need adjusting. It is also possible that he qualifies for SSD. You might want to look into it.
The in person support group sounds great. Real hugs beat virtual hugs every time.

鄭湘定 said...

人有兩眼一舌,是為了觀察倍於說話的緣故。............................................................

perphila said...

I hope he can make it through this rough patch. It's good you see the signs though. I need to look into finding a support group too. I think I need some extra help. It's great there is a NAMI group not too far away for you.