Thursday, January 12, 2012

DH got fired

Well, I know most of you aren't surprised to hear this.  But actually, in the last two weeks, DH had been really trying hard to get into work.  He was very proud of himself.  (He still wasn't doing anything at home at all unless I really really nagged, but at least there was some money coming in)....

Anyhow, tonite he was in a really good mood.  He went to work and was already back home by the time I got home from work.  He said he was scheduled to come in at 3pm, even though for months he has worked at 6pm on Thursday nights.  I'm not sure whose fault it really is, DH's memory and attention to detail is so terrible that he might have looked right at the schedule and not noticed that the time was different.  I'd like to think, also, that management would have pointed out to him that they had made a change, but, according to DH, they didn't.  Well, it's been coming for a long time....and he's had many "second chances".  So here we go.

In a way I have that strange, relieved feeling that I had when I got laid off.  I knew it was coming for so long, it was a relief to have it over and done with and know where things stand.  I'm scared about finances.  But I think if I'm very careful, and maybe sleep at my friend's house once a week, I can make it work.  I don't really have much of a choice!  Well, as I said a few weeks ago, I've been here before and I learned a lot from that.  My biggest fear is DH's "needs".  His cigarettes, his pop, and even though he once again isn't caring about his diabetes, I don't feel right feeding him food that is blatantly unhealthy, especially for a diabetic.  I imagine that's what it'll probably come down to, though....he's not checking his blood sugar or anything like that lately anyhow, and "healthy" foods are so much more expensive....I'll do what I can, but I don't think it'll be the best nutrition....

DH, I think, is still in shock.  He is really handling it remarkably well, considering how he normally reacts to negative stress....but like he said, he thinks he's in shock and that it feels like a bad dream.  I imagine tomorrow or the next day, when it really sinks in, I'll need to keep close tabs on his mental health.

In the meantime, I guess I'll just play it by ear and know that somehow "the money always comes from somewhere".....


Miz Kizzle said...

That's too bad. Does he qualify for unemployment?
Can you give him a small allowance each week so he can buy soda and cigs with the understanding that once it's gone that's it 'til next week?

CatLover said...

I'm really sorry to hear that he got fired. I know what you mean about the relief, but it still is one heck of a blow.

What I did to get off pop was to sub koolaid and coffee for a year, and only have one or two pops a day, then cut back on the koolaid, over the next few months, and then a year later, I am down to about 4 pops a week. I drink a LOT more water now, and keep a pitcher of it in the refrigerator at all times. I used to drink about 20 cans of pop a week. I'm saving a lot of money, and it's almost certainly healthier. It's so nice not to have to schlep all those heavy boxes of pop, too. I did diet koolaid (generic at Walmart was cheap) because Diet Coke was my thing. I don't think I could have cut the pop out all at once without getting more depressed, because it was one of my coping things. My sister, who also has depression problems has gotten off most of her Diet Coke habit, also, and she did it a lot faster than I did. She went straight to ice water.

Anyhow, good luck.

Miss Kitty said...

So sorry to hear this, Carol. (((hugs))

marythemom said...

Will be praying for you.

Hugs and prayers!

Brian Pollack said...

Wow, so much going on. Are you able to find a sense of semblance in all of this? Everything seems so immediate and intense. If you're looking for tools to handling strength, the idea of happiness, and the cycles of life, please stop by my blog and say Hi.

You and DH are in my thoughts and prayers.