Sunday, November 27, 2011

Really down day for DH

In the past week, DH has had two episodes where he um...soiled himself.  The urge came on so suddenly that there wasn't any time to find a bathroom.  He's had a couple of close calls at home, too.  Luckily it hasn't happened at work yet, but DH was (understandably) worried, and went to the urgent care clinic yesterday.

They told him that most cases like his are not physical as in "problem with digestive tract" issues, but neurological, in nature.  Since DH has a possible TBI(?), the doctor speculated that this could be a progression of his injury, in which case, it may be something he has to "learn to live with".  DH is extremely depressed about the whole thing.  He's in one of those "the world is ending" moods, where, in his mind, there is nothing good at all in the world.  He hasn't called me all night (I'm getting ready to leave work after working all night, he usually calls me to say "hi"), so I called him to make sure he was ok.  He answered the phone, but his responses were very flat-sounding and short.  Funny, though, DH states that his back doesn't hurt at all lately....(?)

I tried to remind him that the doctors have been wrong about a lot of things with him.   He agreed that that is true, but that did not change his mood.  He will (hopefully) go for an MRI on Monday (that's what the doctor recommended anyhow) to see if they can figure out what is happening.

I wish I knew how to help.


Elizabeth A. said...

I'd be pretty hard pressed to get out of bed myself. Could he possibly give up smoking for a couple of days to see if that helps.

I don't smoke often anymore, but if my stomach is bothering me (after a really fatty meal, for example) and I smoke, I've been hard pressed to find a bathroom before. Especially with coffee. Maybe going decaf could help.

His doctor couldn't give him anything to at least make it him feel more secure when he leaves the house? Do any of the OTC's help?

Hell, even calcium supplements without magnesium could help until the doctor's know what to do.

It's just awful they didn't have anything real to tell you. Anytime I'm really stressed, I have to keep Immodium chewables in my purse, so I can at least relate to DH's troubles and it's even more stressful worrying about it. Vicious cycle.