Time=10:45pm
Me: Hello?
Mom: Hi, it's past 10:30.
Me: (not understanding right away) Yes, it is.
Mom: Well you're still at work. You told me the doctor appointment was at 10:30. I got all dressed and I've been sitting here waiting for you and you're still at work.
Me: Oh Mom, I think you got kind of mixed up. It's 10:45 at NIGHT. The appointment is in the morning. Why don't you put your jammies on and go back to bed?
Mom: (in a venomous tone) I DON'T HAVE JAMMIES!
Me: Ok, Mom, why don't you put your nightgown on, then, and try to get some sleep?
Mom: I DON'T WANT TO PUT THAT ON AGAIN TONIGHT.
Me: Well it's perfectly fine if you sleep in what you've got on, then you'll be all ready to go when you get up.
Mom: Are you sure it's not time to go?
Me: You'll be waiting a long, long, time.
Mom: Well I don't want to miss that appointment.
Me: Well, that appointment is pretty important, so you'll want to get some sleep so that you can tell the doctor what's been going on. (Mostly I'll be doing the telling, but I don't think she realizes that). If you stay up all night, you won't be thinking very clearly and you won't know what to say to the doctor.
Mom: Well, if you say so, I guess I'll try....
Me: Promise me you're going to go back to bed?
Mom: (long pause) I don't know if I can.
Me: Remember you're going to have to talk to the doctor....
Mom: I guess I could try.....(not sounding sure of herself at all)
Me: Ok, you go to bed and I'll see you in the morning.
I know that the "helpers" check on her at midnight. Hopefully they can get her back to bed if she doesn't go for me. Sucks. Because I can't very well send DH over to check on her, and I can't call her because if she did go to bed, I'll wake her up. Just gotta trust those helpers...
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
My mom just called.
Posted by Carol at 11:06 PM
Labels: Alzheimer's, assisted living, dementia, elderly, memory, mom, work
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4 comments:
I don't know how you do it. I'd be ripping my hair out. I hope your Hubby feels better soon and that you get good news at the Dr. tomorrow.
Thank goodness for the helpers. I hope the appointment goes well.
I left you an award at my place...go get it:)
You must have the patience of a saint. Amazing what we are capable of coping with when you love someone isn't it. Hope it all goes well for you and your mom.
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