Monday, August 13, 2012

DD update

DD has continued to struggle with her behaviors at the group home she is in.  We did have to have a special meeting as she has been bullying the other residents, and when confronted with this, she became very angry, ran out of the house, and tried to jump into a moving car in the street :-(

So.....what seems to have been decided at this point....DD will remain in the group home she is in for the time being.  If she continues to bully the other residents, she will have to move to a different home (run by the same company) as soon as an opening is available.  They are theorizing at this time that she may need to move every year, as once she gets "too comfortable", she starts feeling like she is in charge and can do no wrong.

I have been trying to wean down her visits from every other weekend to maybe every third weekend or so.  I just get tired of dealing with it--the whining, the arguing, the manipulation.... I have some guilt with this, of course, but I am finding myself having very little patience with her lately, and I think it'd probably be better for all of us if she didn't come home so much.  And I think, too, that there is so much water under the bridge, that it's very hard to go back to the way things ought to be.  I think some time apart might help with that.  But I've never done this before, so maybe I'm wrong.


Kevin Vortex said...

As a person that functions with a mental illness (Bi_polar affective) I applaud you for putting your experiences on the web.
I just hope that the ill people in your life realize that the best road to sanity s to form a trusting relationship with their "pdoc" and take medication as prescribed. It took YEARS before my pdoc found the right meds for me. I had one doctor put me on twice the maximum dose of an anti-psychotic. I went off my meds in order to get a new pdoc and new meds. The next pdoc I had out me on 1/4 the adult dose of a medication and except for a few hiccups has worked well, my dose was recently adjusted to 1/2 the adult dose.
If you'd like to read about life with a mental illness, trying to live a life that is please check out my blog. Its a bit kid unfriendly and adult all over the place. It gets dark.


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Some people will be very thankful for sharing your own experience. Thank you for the time!

Diego said...

I too have a family member that is mentally ill, therefore I can relate to your daughter, DD. My cousin, David, was born mentally challenged and could not go to school. He lives a happy life. My cousin never went to a group home, but he does visit the doctor every now and then to get a checkup. I am really grateful you are helping the mentally ill community by working with them.

Kathie said...

Are you okay, Carol? I'm dealing with a serious medical issue (ovarian cancer), and haven't been able to check in here as often as I used to. Please let everyone know how things are going with you.

Love in Christ,