tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post8986920349166819551..comments2023-10-12T02:44:19.333-05:00Comments on My mentally ill life: (My) Pride and (possible) PrejudiceCarolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13675829827137657056noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-19920447160702907862009-01-13T18:56:00.000-06:002009-01-13T18:56:00.000-06:00I am glad that you have family that can help you o...I am glad that you have family that can help you out. Remember, an illness struck your family.Mrs. Dreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08521726206962438525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-1009906839642716722008-08-11T07:55:00.000-05:002008-08-11T07:55:00.000-05:00Hi, i made my blog private, but if you send me you...Hi, i made my blog private, but if you send me your email address I will add you as a reader :-)Lornahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01142863676318940095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-83307227297087512962008-08-10T21:58:00.000-05:002008-08-10T21:58:00.000-05:00I sympathize. Is your brother just gifting this mo...I sympathize. Is your brother just gifting this money to you? Or are you planning to pay him back? <BR/><BR/>If you are planning to pay him back, maybe it would make you feel better about the whole thing if you make a payment plan of some kind.Pannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02153295867807635375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-72166095063868171702008-08-08T11:05:00.000-05:002008-08-08T11:05:00.000-05:00Been there. Done that.My sister is a married but ...Been there. Done that.<BR/><BR/>My sister is a married but childless banker who makes over seven figures annually. I make umm--considerably less than that.<BR/><BR/>At two points in my life, she has gifted me with money to help get me through. Both times I paid off a boatload of debt. Both times, I wound up back in the same place a few years later. Both times I intended to pay her back. Both times, that never happened.<BR/><BR/>Still, I am not sorry I took the money. We are close, and she had the money to give. God knows, I needed it. <BR/><BR/>What I do wish, in retrospect, is that I had gotten myself educated about debt and savings sooner.Grace.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03557395027685855901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-9064498123396932232008-08-07T13:05:00.000-05:002008-08-07T13:05:00.000-05:00I know how you feel, well sort of. My dad had a ve...I know how you feel, well sort of. My dad had a very large amount of money saved away for us to use as a deposit on a house one day. I was the one the one though that actually asked him if we could use the money to pay off our debt (it was the same amount as the debt)now, as it will be years before we could buy a house of our own anyway, and we were wasting so much money just on minimum payments on our cards. I said we could still save up that amount again by saving less than half of the money being wasted on repayments. I felt bad, and stupid for asking, as we supposed to be grownups and they have bailed us out so many times. I thought he would say no, but he agreed it would be a good idea. Since it was all payed off we seem to have so much more spare cash (well not spare, but we are doing so much better on a much smaller income). It also helps that DH isn't manic spending all the time too! It has made such a difference to us, so the embarassment of taking it has well outweighed the hellish reypayments! <BR/><BR/>Take the money, don't feel bad and enjoy the breathing space and spare cash. I hope it really helps you out. You are very lucky to have someone who wants to help too.<BR/><BR/>Take care x xLornahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01142863676318940095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-70931637266414481022008-08-07T08:26:00.000-05:002008-08-07T08:26:00.000-05:00Oh I do know that feeling when a family member wan...Oh I do know that feeling when a family member wants to help you out. I think @ this point you should let him help & I'm glad that you are. Like you said maybe one day you can pay him back or even help in out. Isn't that what true family is anyway there for when you need them. I no it's hard due to so many emotions you are feeling now but just think of how great it is that you have a brother that see you need help & wants to be there for you.<BR/>Didn't mean to go on, & on.<BR/>JoannAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com