tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post8958333579288081568..comments2023-10-12T02:44:19.333-05:00Comments on My mentally ill life: Am I the one being a jerk here?Carolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13675829827137657056noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-13616980145152632152008-09-28T11:45:00.000-05:002008-09-28T11:45:00.000-05:00sorry for just showing up out of nowhere, a strang...sorry for just showing up out of nowhere, a stranger, and commenting on your blog... i found the link on a comment you left on post-secret...<BR/><BR/>i don't think you are being a jerk at all... not a single bit. i have bipolar disorder. because of this, i don't keep people close to me because when i'm down, i'm waaaaaay down and people don't/won't/can't deal with it. and when i'm having a manic episode, i get really happy with my money...this actually caused me to have to file for bankruptcy last year. that's why i don't think you are being a jerk, i'm not married, i don't have a family, when i do these things, i'm only hurting myself - i'm having no (immediate) impact on anyone. his actions, even if it is something caused by the illness, still have a huge impact on you. if you don't stand your ground, he will pull you down with him. and i don't mean that in a mean way, i just know that i've done the same thing to others without realizing it and now i'm afraid to be close to anyone because i don't want to do it again. but by standing your ground, you are also (even if he doesn't see it that way) doing him a big favor. if it weren't for the people who truly offer me support and are constantly able to help me see what i'm doing that needs to change, i would probably completely self-destruct. <BR/>he has an illness. and he may never be "better," but you also can't let guilt control you. <BR/>i've often wondered what kind of hell i put people through with my behavior...i know it's not easy for you. i hope someday you will be able to find some peace... some middle ground.<BR/>if you're supposed to be able to understand, respect, deal with what he is going through and allow him time and space to adjust, then he needs to be able to do the same thing for you...don't EVER forget that.<BR/>good luck with the journey...it's not an easy one and i hate that you have to deal with it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-49620949685782535052008-09-23T01:29:00.000-05:002008-09-23T01:29:00.000-05:00Is there anywhere that you can hide your gold doll...Is there anywhere that you can hide your gold dollars, then just tell your husband you decided to put them in the bank so he won't be looking for them. In my opinion you have a good cause to be upset with him. <BR/>AlinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-46865116554241118582008-09-21T16:16:00.000-05:002008-09-21T16:16:00.000-05:00Hi....coming over to visit after you so graciously...Hi....coming over to visit after you so graciously came and visited my site! I hope to catch up on reading later in the week. Anyway, thanks for stopping by my site and leaving a comment. I always enjoy the comments, but especially the ones from fellow Minnesotans!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-13554302215611648812008-09-21T07:57:00.000-05:002008-09-21T07:57:00.000-05:00I don't think you are a jerk. I don't think the is...I don't think you are a jerk. I don't think the issue is about right and wrong either. One of the hardest things (for me anyway) is to accept, understand and explain to others how you can forgive the person but not the behavior. What was done during an episode to hurt you either emotionally or finacially even if not "on purpose" is still a road of healing you and you alone must travel and heal from at your own pace. Having the objects of the betrayal (I would feel the same as you there) around you everyday I think will make it harder to recover from. Maybe DH just isn't in an emotional empathic place yet to understand you need time. You have every right to like or dislike anything. Especially his "toys". As for the pop thing, if he was sitting there snorting coke or something else dangerous to his body would you have taken that? High blood sugar like that is deadly. Yes you were a bit sneaky and I totally understand wanting to avoid a fight since it seems he is in that kind of place right now. I am sure when he is able to think clearly again he will thank you. After all, if he was thinking clearly would he have been drinking the non diet pop to begin with? Most likely not.perphilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17191514151838436492noreply@blogger.com