tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post6910832849390020229..comments2023-10-12T02:44:19.333-05:00Comments on My mentally ill life: Full moon or something like it....Carolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13675829827137657056noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-11047058124317384672009-05-01T12:22:00.000-05:002009-05-01T12:22:00.000-05:00I feel like running away all the time too. I drea...I feel like running away all the time too. I dream of leaving and having my old life back but at the same time I don't know if I could even go back to that. I'd still worry about all the crap going down here with the kids and Hubbins.<br /><br />It's hard taking care of an adult who acts like a child and is resentful. I have huge anger issues. My whole life I've kept any anger I had inside and now that I am older, I'm letting it out when I feel it. Hubbins thinks I need to see a therapist. <br /><br />I won't. The last therapist, I saw was the kids therapist. I trusted her and she tried to use my childhood abuse and my insecurities against me when I was letting her go. Be careful who you go see. <br /><br />I guess the most important thing is to know that it is ok to be angry. Especially when DH and DD start acting like you are the one with the issues and the one who is mean or whatever they choose. Try not to feel guilty for feeling this way after the fact. You are carrying a large load and you are only one person. Right? <br /><br />I think you and I are alike in the fact that we believe that people have the power to change their circumstances. I have gone over and over and over it in my head about how I could change my circumstances and leaving is the only answer but still doesn't seem like an option or truly an answer. I'm starting to think that maybe the circumstances can't be changed but the attitude towards it can be adjusted. I still care too much to change my attitude. But there might be something to it, maybe...Reighniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03249582936717929919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-5569578128973185792009-05-01T11:05:00.000-05:002009-05-01T11:05:00.000-05:00Of course you're angry and frustrated! You are one...Of course you're angry and frustrated! You are one adult taking care of your kid, and your other two kids: your husband and your mother. I feel like that often. My mom is bi-polar, my husband and son have ADD.<br /><br />I could use some therapy myself but can't afford it. Get the therapy for yourself if you can swing it. You have to take care of yourself and it's hard to do when you are taking care of so many things. You're supporting everyone and no one is supporting you. You need some support!Angelinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05216322840161752535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-18264867530653194802009-04-30T11:25:00.000-05:002009-04-30T11:25:00.000-05:00Fill out the forms yourself. I know it seems like ...Fill out the forms yourself. I know it seems like you are enabling him but getting the money trumps that. DH can do his part by reviewing it and signing it. <br /><br />You did great at keeping your cool. Goodness knows how hard that is. A support group might be a good and free place to start if getting a counselor is too difficult or expensive to do. <br /><br />I have my fingers crossed for you!perphilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17191514151838436492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-48679625709281712012009-04-30T10:28:00.000-05:002009-04-30T10:28:00.000-05:00My first thought was also to fill out the forms yo...My first thought was also to fill out the forms yourself. Have him look over it and sign it, etc. <br /><br />I understand how even small tasks can present serious frustration. Anger and frustration are two of my most uncontrollable emotions but what I don't understand is why he doesn't understand what a high priority the SS forms carry to the entire household's quality of life. There would be more money for everything, including cereal and cigarettes. <br /><br />It seems the labelling is really bothering him, which maybe explains his inability to handle these problems/daily life because it makes him face his disease and inabilities. Maybe a peer support group y'all could attend together. Hell, start one.Elizabeth A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06741728597715923701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-59142352635986123292009-04-30T08:58:00.000-05:002009-04-30T08:58:00.000-05:00Carol, fill all the forms out yourself. You need t...Carol, fill all the forms out yourself. You need to submit them by a certain date or you'll be S.O.L. (that's shit out of luck, in case you didn't know!)<br /> It's obvious that your DH can't or won't do it. I think he's ashamed of being "officially" labelled incapable of working. His claim that he takes care of your DD was an attempt to seem as if he is contributing something to your household. But you're right, the question refers to young children, not teens like your DD.<br />Hospitals sometimes have free support groups for families of mentally ill people. If there's a hospital near you, you could try calling their community relations department. Therapy can be expensive. You could probably get more out of a peer support group.<br />You might even consider Al-anon. I know your husband's primary problem isn't drinking but Al-anon is helpful for anyone who needs to detach from a loved one's problems. It's free and there may be meetings in your area.Miz Kizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05650747741395559803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-5197388582163500782009-04-30T05:43:00.000-05:002009-04-30T05:43:00.000-05:00Theres a song at the moment that sums up some of w...Theres a song at the moment that sums up some of what you are going through. <br /><br />"I got a man with two left feet<br />And when he dances down to the beat<br />I really think that he should know<br />That his rhythms go go go<br /><br />I got a man with two left feet<br />And when he dances down to the beat<br />I really think that he should know<br />That his rhythms go go go<br /><br />CHORUS<br />Does he wash up? Never wash up<br />Does he clean up? No, he never cleans up<br />Does he brush up? Never brushed up<br />He does nothing the boy does nothing"<br /><br />I hope thsi brought at least a small smile to you. Thinking of you.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02935604496504003036noreply@blogger.com