tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post2893202753231822817..comments2023-10-12T02:44:19.333-05:00Comments on My mentally ill life: My day sucked. (warning--not for squeamish)Carolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13675829827137657056noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-22749105382541383912010-08-19T09:44:20.022-05:002010-08-19T09:44:20.022-05:00You are not a bad mom. You are trying to help DD a...You are not a bad mom. You are trying to help DD and tried to be reasonable but her mind was set so there there was nothing you could do. You didn't deserve to be yelled at for following the rules and for not letting yourself get tricked. Sometimes being a mom, a parent, is a thankless job.<br /><br />I did that kind of cleaning up quite often and you don't even really think about it. When I do it I feel bad for the person I am helping more than for what some people might think of as a nasty task. I don't expect the family to help because they have enough on their plate to deal with and if doing something as small as this helps then I am glad for it. Don't feel guilty about that. Maybe it was the meds change and maybe it wasn't. You were trying to help and that is what's important. If it is the meds then you will try something else. At least you are trying. I wish you were able to talk with your brother about this stuff or DH.perphilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17191514151838436492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-68764220251763909982010-08-17T22:52:37.733-05:002010-08-17T22:52:37.733-05:00Carol, I am sending you a message at The Tree. Gra...Carol, I am sending you a message at The Tree. Grannyof3Kathienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-83750927253951524932010-08-17T16:37:29.348-05:002010-08-17T16:37:29.348-05:00I used to work at a hospital and can understand th...I used to work at a hospital and can understand the discomfort involved with 'cleaning up' after an accident. Do not feel bad that you didn't clean it up or stay, instead of going to work. You need to take care of yourself. And you are NOT a bad mom for hanging up on DD. You did the right thing, you don't deserved to be screamed at. <br />More power to you, you're doing good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-43877797514965572232010-08-17T09:12:05.396-05:002010-08-17T09:12:05.396-05:00I know how you feel, My mother was in a nursing ho...I know how you feel, My mother was in a nursing home the last 17 months of her life. I had to watch her slowly suffer until she took her last breath. I also had day's of losing my patience with all the usual family issues. My daughter can be hard to deal with sometimes, she has anxiety disorder like me. One thing I learned is I had to forgive myself, not easy. We are only human and caring for a sick mother alone is so painful, so forgive yourself and allow yourself to feel what you need to feel at any given moment. It's how we survive. Take Care,<br />Janet :)Janet Gardnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08655146770794074362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2339974062095553185.post-31462903217113881852010-08-17T07:35:41.402-05:002010-08-17T07:35:41.402-05:00The last eight months of my Mom's life, I was ...The last eight months of my Mom's life, I was her caretaker at her house. Cleaning her up wasn't fun, but what was hardest was "seeing" my mother all the time and having to acknowledge the mother I had was gone. We were pleased with some days when she was herself, I will always treasure that I was there for them. I hope you get some days, too.GB's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08866513131959998883noreply@blogger.com