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Thursday, October 29, 2009

Question for the day:


Is it better to consider having Mom placed in a nursing home 4 miles away from my house, that has relatively few services specific to dementia, but does have some familiar faces (of both employees and residents who used to live in the same assisted living where my mom lives now)...

Or is it better for her to be 45 minutes to an hour away from my house, in a place that has more specialized services for people with dementia, and more activities, etc.?

It's a tough call.

Right now I'm leaning towards keeping her close to me--I can stop by every day, give her a hug, etc....

But then I go back to--I don't have much time every day. So often she might end up just sitting there, doing nothing. Where in a dementia-specific place, there would be more activities that she could partake in, and a different atmosphere....?

3 comments:

Robin said...

The dementia specific place would be good for longer term as well. I'm thinking your mom won't get better or more coherent as time goes by, so if she can stay in one place longer that might be better for her. Maybe.

perphila said...

I think a place that is more specific for your moms needs would be the best for her in the long term. If you kept her closer and it became a need to move her again that would be hard for the both of you.

Miz Kizzle said...

I'd check out the demential place. They should be better trained in helping people with your mom's specific needs.
If you moved her to the place closer to you she might not recognize the people that she used to know. I think you mentioned that she's having trouble recognizing family members. If she were to get settled in there only to have her dementia worsen (as it probably will) you'll only have to move her anyway.