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Wednesday, February 4, 2009

My phone call

RINGGGGG!!!!!!!!!! RINGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!

Me: Hello, this is Carol speaking...

DH: Hi. It's me.

Me: What've you been up to?

DH: Nothing.

Me: So you've just been sitting there?

DH: Yeah.

Me: You don't sound like you're doing very good.

DH: I'm not. Did you get something to eat? I could bring you something...

Me: It's 90 miles away. It would be silly for you to drive 90 miles to bring me something to eat, when I've got some ramen right here...

DH: Well, I just want to see you, that's all....

Me: Have you tried to figure out what's going on?

DH: It feels like something serious, like really bad....like I'm going to have a breakdown.

Me: What do you think is causing this? (I'm thinking the stress of my mom's illness and him forcing himself to go and visit her, even when it upsets him....)

DH: I think it's because I didn't take my pills yesterday morning.

Me: (silence) Oh. I see.

DH: So what should I bring you?

Me: Well, you know what I think you should do?

DH: YES. I KNOW WHAT YOU THINK I SHOULD DO. YOU THINK I SHOULD TAKE MY NIGHTTIME PILLS AND GO TO BED.

Me: Well, that's about right.

DH: But then I won't get any cleaning done or anything...

Me: What are the odds of you getting any cleaning done anyhow?

DH: Well, I've GOTTA do SOMETHING!

Me: So why don't you take your nighttime pills, and do "SOMETHING" until they kick in and you need to go to sleep?

DH: Oh, I guess so....I'll call you in a little while. I love you.

Me: I love you too. Bye

DH: Bye

2 comments:

perphila said...

Don't you just wish you could laugh? I'm sorry you have to feel so stressed. You are handling things so well. You are doing a great job! I am glad you are able to share.

Pann said...

Oh boy, do I ever feel for DH. It even scares me a little that I feel like I know just what he means. In spite of all rational reasoning, sometimes you just feel like you want to be with the one you love. Even if it's 90 miles away. And you don't need to bring any food, really. And gas money doesn't exist. And, And, And.
I sure hope he took his meds. We all know how essential meds are.
You are handling this really well, Carol. Hang in there.